Did you know that over 95% of teenagers feel inferior in some way? Living through a pandemic, facing illness, and dealing with restrictions socially and personally have only further increased these feelings among young people. Creating good self-esteem and self-belief seems easy enough, but when environmental factors are consistently negative young people simply do not know which way to turn. In this article, Need2Know Books offers some simple tools that can help build self-esteem in young people to help promote positive self-identity and image.
The Young Men’s Mental Health Site states that “self-esteem relates to how much you like yourself, and how you recognize or appreciate your individual character, qualities, skills, and accomplishments.”
According to theories in psychology, children’s self-esteem is built on two pillars: acceptance and competence. Children feel good about themselves when they feel loved and supported by significant others (acceptance) and when they master new skills to achieve their goals (competence).
Building belief and self-esteem is a lifelong journey even when parents provide a reasonable foundation that builds confidence. One day a child can feel confident and full of belief, and the next day their confidence can be easily shattered because a disparaging remark was made about how they looked or because they received a bad mark.
Whatever the reason may be losing belief in oneself can happen to us all and for teens when this happens the world can be a frightening and grim place. Losing confidence and belief is a natural occurrence because many young people lack the experience and maturity to handle difficulty.
There are simple tools that parents can use which can empower young people to help them develop a sense of resilience which in turn builds healthy self-esteem and belief.
Journaling thoughts and ideas have always been a great stress reliever for creative types but writing about thoughts and fears to release anxiety and stress can be a great way for a young person to take control of their self-identity. Here are some tips to keep in mind when journaling.
- Introduce positive affirmations and positive self-talk while journaling
- set goals and intentions to give the mind a focus
- champion both the good and bad things that happen to you. There is always a silver lining or a lesson to learn in everything we do.
By taking these steps a stronger inner dialogue will be formed which will help overcome difficult thoughts and feelings.
The Art of Relaxation
Learning to quiet the mind and relax is a life skill so the earlier this is introduced the better a young person’s life can be as they grow into an adult. We take for granted the benefits of being still and simply relaxing, but it is easy to do and doesn’t cost a penny.
- Quieting the mind can be done through meditation
- going for a long walk, or bike ride
- or simply allowing the mind to be completely still just for a few moments each day.
All of these tools are valid skills that can help lift a negative mood so creating this habit from an early age can be a great esteem booster.
At the end of the day, we all face failure, times of depression, and doubt in our lives. What gets us through these dark moments is the love we have around us. The biggest gift a parent can give to their child is to love unconditionally and teach a growth mindset.
- If a young person is angry with themselves because they failed at something or couldn’t achieve what they wanted praise them for who they are and for simply trying and encourage them to keep trying.
- If anxiety, or destructive behaviour such as self-harming, or eating disorders are discovered let your child know they are loved for who they are and not what they look like, or for who they are not.
- Simply giving a young person a hug or a smile can go a long way so give your child the attention they deserve.
There are many ways to strengthen self-esteem and belief in teens and young people. Our essential guides on self-harm, depression, and stress are great starting points if you are worried about a loved one. Visit: www.need2knowbooks.co.uk for further information.