Bullying happens in lots of schools all over the world, and affects many students in those
schools. The way in which a school deals with the problem is what really decides whether
school life will be miserable or fun.
Bullying Comes in Many Forms
Bullying can be split into three main types:
❖ Physical Violence. This is where a bully causes damage to a person’s body or
belongings. Examples include…
➢ Making rude motions and gestures;
➢ Taking or breaking someone’s things;
❖ Relational Bullying. This is where a bully purposely hurts the victim’s relationships
or social standing, and is sometimes called “social bullying”. Examples include…
➢ Embarrassing someone in public;
➢ Preventing someone from making friends.
❖ Verbal Abuse. This is where the bully writes or says cruel things. Examples include…
➢ Inappropriate sexual comments;
➢ Threatening to cause harm;
Bullying that takes place through a mobile phone or the Internet – i.e. through instant
messaging, social media or texts – is known as cyberbullying. This is just as serious as the
other forms of bullying and while no physical harm is inflicted, it can cause severe
Who Does Bullying Happen To?
❖ Absolutely anyone can get bullied.
❖ It can affect quiet students, class jokers, shy kids and just about any other type of
kid you can think of.
❖ No matter what anyone says, bullying is NEVER the target’s fault.
❖ Girls bully, boys bully, primary school kids bully and secondary school teens bully –
there is no one kind of person that bullies.
❖ Bullying is about someone’s behaviour toward another person.
It is NOT your fault if you get bullied! This isn’t a reflection of who you are, but of
who the bully is.
Coping with Bullying at School
Tell your parents, tell a classmate and tell your teacher if you’re being bullied at school.
Unless you do this, it’s not going to stop. Telling your parents what’s going on might feel
scary, so it might be easiest to write them a letter, or talk to a different family member first
– your older sibling, uncle or grandmother.
Your class teacher or form tutor needs to know what’s happening, so try to find a time to
talk to them where the topic won’t be obvious to your other classmates. For example, you
could pretend you need help with work and stay after class to talk about it. If you don’t feel
comfortable doing that, you could raise the issue with another member of staff, like a
counsellor or school nurse. You could get into trouble or get hurt if you try and lash out or
fight the bully, so it’s important that you get an adult to intervene instead.
In many cases, bullying is a lot more complex than it seems from the outside. Most
scenarios will involve three main roles: the bully, the victim and the bystander. Cases that
look very simple can still be very complicated – for example, a student who is a victim in
one event might also be a bully in another scenario.
Young people who act as bystanders will either intervene to stop the bullying or do things
to make it even worse. They might provide the bully with an encouraging audience, or even
actively participate in the bullying. If a bystander wants to be helpful to the victim, they
might get an adult or stand up for the victim themselves.
Teachers and other adults who encounter bullying among students should be careful with
these labels. While we have used them above to help explain basic roles, it’s important that
we think about the impact these labels might have on the identities of the young people
involved. It’s widely accepted that labelling someone as a “bully” sends a message that the
individual is unable to stop this bullying behaviour.
School climate, peer pressure, family situation and many other factors can all contribute to
bullying behaviour. While labelling characters as “the bully” and “the victim” makes a
situation easier to describe, it’s generally a better plan of action to discuss the bullying
behaviours rather than the individuals themselves.
Body Language and Bullying
We can learn a lot about other people based on their body language.
Picture walking into school in the morning. How do you feel in that moment? Powerful and
positive? Or do you feel worried and shy?
You might actually be making yourself look more noticeable if you’re darting around,
looking at the floor and trying to be invisible. It can make you look vulnerable and afraid.
You can send out quite a different message of confidence if you step into the school boldly.
You’ll certainly look confident, whether you feel it or not.
How Does Bullying Make People Feel?
Unsurprisingly, being bullied does not feel good. However, it can also cause some other
feelings that are a little less easy to explain. Some people might feel…
❖ Sorry, as if it’s their fault they’re being bullied;
❖ Lonely, as if nobody wants to help;
❖ Sad and abandoned by the people they thought they could rely on;
❖ Stressed out and mixed up from wondering why this is happening and what they
❖ Scared to talk about it;
❖ Ashamed and embarrassed;
❖ Unsafe and afraid to attend school or work;
❖ Like they don’t fit in socially;
❖ Hopeless and stuck, like they can’t get out of the situation.
If you’re a parent and are unsure if your child is being bullied, check out our post about the
signs you need to watch out for.
For more information about bullying, check out Need2Know’s Essential Guide to Bullying
which offers some answers as to why children are bullied and how parents can stop it from
happening as well as providing some proven methods on how to help the bullied child
boost their plummeting self-esteem. Need2Know also have some great books about
dyslexia, ADHD and anorexia. Whether you’re a student, a teacher or a concerned parent,
we have all the information you need!